Monday, April 6, 2009

What do you think?

So, I think this letter to Deseret Book explains itself.  I cannot believe some people, and if I don't stand up for adoption who will?

To Whom it May Concern,

I have hesitated to write this letter, for a few reasons, I believe the person at fault is a manager of the store, so I am not expecting anything to be done, but I would appreciate sharing this information with any of the employees, so further comments will not be made.  And secondly my sweet husband went into the store to make a complaint already this morning, but at the urging of my family I write this.
I was present at the Ladies Night on Saturday April 5th.  I have been coming with my mom and sisters for several years to participate and have always enjoyed myself, it has become a tradition for my family.  But on Saturday night, there was an extremely hurtful comment made, and I know I am not the only one who was deeply offended.  
Towards the end of the night, the store employee, who I believe is a manager got up and instead of drawing a name for a book on Motherhood, decided to find the woman who had the most children.  I agree, give a book to a mother who has self-lessly given of herself to raise her family!  This did not bother me.  It was how this employee decided to define a mother.  She asked for the woman who had delivered the most children, stating, “not adopted, not foster, not your husbands kids, YOUR OWN KIDS that came from your own body.”  
Let me explain why I was so offended, you see six months ago after 5 ½ years of trying to conceive my husband and I were blessed by the miracle of adoption.  We finalize her adoption on the 13th and will have her sealed to us on April 18th in the Salt Lake Temple.  I was so hurt because of the “YOUR OWN KIDS” statement.  I believe whole heartedly that my daughter is “my own.”  She was meant to be in our family, and I know I was meant to be her mother.   I do not believe this employee was trying to be offensive, or hurtful, but  I do believe this person knows nothing about adoption and should be enlightened.  I know I was not the only person offended that night, one of the first winners of the drawing that night was a woman in my ward who was placed with her daughter 3 weeks after I was placed with mine.  They also finalize this month.  Not to mention my mom and sisters who were stunned as the words came out.  
Let me end by quoting from a book that is carried by Deseret Book.  A few years ago I was desperately looking for a book on infertility from the church (they are few and far between).  I found a book in your store by Krista Ralston Oaks titled Fertile in Our Faith.  In it she compares a adoption to a family reunion.  She says, “Some came to the reunion by car. Some came by airplane.  Some came by train.  What mattered was who, not how they came.  The plan by which our child came to our family was the right plan…” (pg. 46)  After reading those words, I decided to let go of the hopes I had to become pregnant and to embrace the miracle of adoption.  Being pregnant does not make you a mother.  Praying so fervently for a child, waking up for a midnight feeding, bathing and teaching her to clap when she’s happy and fold her arms when she prays, that is what makes a mother.  
I hope this gives a little insight to adoption, and that these children belong to their parents, despite the fact that they did not come from their mother’s bodies. Thank you.
Jenny Hill 

Thursday, March 26, 2009

Time for an update and BIG news!!!!

Jeremy's 30th birthday was on March 17th!!!  He was a little stressed about being 30, so I threw him a little surprise birthday party!  We had soooo much fun, thanks to all who came, he had no idea!!!  (I can't find the rest of the pictures, so this will have to do!)

We took my sister-in-law to the MTC yesterday!  What a wonderful experience.  I'm sure going to miss Kristi... I mean Sister Hurd, but I know she is going to be an incredible missionary!  The people in Houston, TX are going to be blessed to know her!

Finally, our most exciting update!!!!  We have completed all of our paperwork, and had our last home visit, and we are set to finalize Ellie's adoption on April 13th!  And more importantly, Ellie will be sealed to us on April 18th in the Salt Lake Temple!!  I can't believe it's already here, Ellie has been such a sweet miracle!  She rolls all over the place now, and she is starting to give kisses! She grabs my face with her little hands and comes at me with an open mouth!  Ohhhh, I looooove it!  She is the sweetest baby.  How blessed we are to have her!  
We had our last home visit last night and our case worker asked me how I was bonding with Ellie and to describe our relationship.  As an adoptive mother it's hard to describe your feelings to people who haven't adopted.  Before we had Ellie I wondered if I would love a baby that was not "biologically" ours as much as I would a baby that was born into our family.  It's a very real concern for adoptive couples, but like I told our case worker, Ellie belongs to us, she was meant to be in our family.  I don't question that she is my daughter and I know that she is loved every bit as much as any child that may or may not come to us "biologically."  She is such a lucky girl to have not only our family that love her, but a whole birth family that love her also!  She is definitely a loved little girl!  

Saturday, February 28, 2009

Pay It Forward

Pay It Forward Exchange is based on the concept of the movie "Pay it forward". I will send a hand made gift to the first FIVE people who leave a comment to this post on my blog requesting to join the PIF exchange. All the gifts will be made and posted out 'sometime within the next year'. How exciting to not know when your surprise package will arrive! What you need to do in return, is pay it forward by making the same promise on your blog. This Exchange is only open to those with active websites or blogs. ALL YOU HAVE TO DO IS PROMISE TO POST THIS SAME 'PAY IT FORWARD' MESSAGE ONTO YOUR BLOG, WHICH MUST BE ACTIVE IN ORDER TO PLAY. YOU WILL PAY IT FORWARD TO FIVE PEOPLE WHO COMMENT ON YOUR BLOG. I'd love for you to join me! Will you? Other comments are welcome, but only the first five will be my Pay It Forward recipients. Who doesn't love free loot?

I won the PIF Exchange on my college roomie, Dana's blog!  So fun!!!  Hopefully I'll come up with something amazing to make and send to the first 5!!!!

Saturday, February 14, 2009

Happy Valentine's Day!!

Ellie started rolling over this week, she is getting so big!  I just can't get enough of her!!!  What a loved baby girl!!!

Sunday, February 1, 2009

6th Anniversary!!!

Today is our anniversary so I thought I'd post a few things I love about Jeremy!

1.  He is such a sweet daddy to Ellie.
2.  He changes diapers without complaint!
3.  He gets up with Ellie in the mornings when he's home so I can sleep in, which means he never gets to!
4.  After 6 years he still opens my car door... I love it!
5.  He runs to the store for me last minute when I forget something for dinner, or need a diet coke!
6.  He is such a good cook!
7.  He does the laundry, I hate doing it... although I'm trying to keep up on it more now that I'm home more!!
8.  He rubs my feet when I get into bed.
9.  He loves to mow our lawn, I love that he takes pride in our yard!
10. He works his guts out to take care of our little family!
11. He watches chick flicks with me, and I think he somewhat enjoys them!
12. He has never blamed me for our infertility... it's always been "our infertility"
13. He comes to the doctor with me because I hate to go alone.
14. He paints my toenails... and they look pretty good!
15. He always puts me first, always. 
16. He honors his priesthood.
17. He loves my family.
18. He goes shopping and buys me clothes that fit perfectly! ( Note: I'm not with him when he does this!!)
19. He sings to Ellie--- I love it.
20. He keeps my car clean.
21. He let's me cut his hair, even when I've ruined it before!
22. He kisses me goodbye in the mornings before he leaves for work.
23. He has given me a Mother's Day present every year, even though I wasn't a mother... yet.
24. He sold all of his guns before we got married, cause they made me nervous.
25. I love how he smells... delish!
26. He cried on our wedding day... I loved it! :)
27. He tells me I'm beautiful everyday.
28. He doesn't care that I'm ChuBbY!
29. He let's me sleep with the fan on in our bedroom, even when he's freezing.
30. He likes my cooking.
31. He let me paint our bedroom how I wanted... and the rest of the house!
32. He supports me in my calling (young women's presidency)
33. His laugh
34. His hands
35. His eyes
36. He holds my hand whenever we go out.
37. He loves my curly hair. ( He was the first guy to like my hair better curly rather than straight.)
38. He's patient
39. He's very optimistic
40. He doesn't worry like I do--- very good for me!!!
41. He let me put acrylic on his nails when I was in school, so I could graduate sooner!!! That's love!!!!
42. He's supportive of my interests.
43. He encourages me to try new things.
44. He adores our dog- he has a soft spot for animals.
45. I love the way he sleeps with his mouth open! Haha
46. The way I fit perfectly on his shoulder when we go to bed.
47. That we agree on politics--- NO OBAMA (sorry we don't support anyone who's pro-choice!- that's another post...)
48. That we laugh at ourselves ALL THE TIME... we think we're hilarious!
49. How he looks in his suit... YUM!
50. He knows me better than I know myself.
51. Kinda gross!!!!-- He always holds my hair back when I throw up! 
52. His amazing memory.
53. He can quote movies after seeing them once.
54. He makes me better.
55. He is good to his family.
56. I love the way he randomly gets in the mood to clean!
57. His love of the gospel.
58. His work ethic.
59. His desire for me to be a stay at home mom.
60. He adores me... and every girl deserves to be ADORED!!!!

To my love, you are my best friend and I have loved being married to you.  I love you more and more everyday.  You have spoiled me beyond belief, I don't know what I did to be so blessed to have you as my husband!!  6 years down... eternity to go!!!

Tuesday, January 27, 2009


Ellie is getting so big!  She's 4 months already, I can't believe it!  She is such a happy baby, she smiles and giggles all the time,  I just love my girl!!!!!

My Love!!

Our 6th anniversary is on Sunday, so I thought I'd do this hubby tag:

How long have you been together?  6 1/2 years, married for 6 on Sunday!
How long did you date? 4 months
How old is he? 29, almost 30! WOW!!!
Who eats more? Depends, I get the munchies more often!!
Who said "I love you" first?  He did, on the phone. My reply... thank you!!  HAHAHAHA Sure did, I said "thank you"
Who is taller?  Jeremy
Who sings better? When he's on key... it's equal!!
Who is smarter? Jeremy is very common sense smart, and he has an incredible memory, I am more book smart.
Who does the laundry? Jeremy does, although now that I'm home with Ellie, I'm trying to stay on top of it!!
Who does the dishes? Me most of the time, but Jeremy helps a lot!

Who sleeps on the right side of the bed? I do.
Who pays the bills? Jeremy
Who mows the lawn? Jeremy, but I prune the bushes, pull the weeds, and sweep the walk!
Who cooks dinner? Both of us-- Jeremy's a REALLY good cook!!
Who is more stubborn? UH... me, hands down!  (Shocker I know! Hahaha)
Who kissed who first? Jeremy kissed me.
Who asked who out? We were set up on a blind date, but he called me first, and set up our date.
Who proposed? 
Jeremy, I made him wait for a while though till I was ready!
Who is more sensitive?
Who has more friends? 
Jeremy is friends with all my friend's husbands!  So about equal!!
Who has more siblings? 
We both have 5.
Who wears the pants in the relationship?
Uh, depends!! 
Who are you tagging?

Tuesday, January 6, 2009

Holiday Update!!

We had a wonderful Christmas this year!  Here's a few pictures!  The first one is Ellie in her Christmas dress.  She was really tired after church, can you tell?!!

These are Ellie's cousins on my side of the family.  Jaxon and Peyton.  Peyton was born December 16th.  So cute!!

Peyton and Ellie on Christmas Eve in their matching outfits from my Aunt Melyn.

Christmas morning at our house.  The last 5 years I've asked for a baby for Christmas, and this year I got her!  So I put a bow on Ellie and stuck her under the tree!!!  Hahaha-- best present EVER!!!!!!!

This is Ellie and one of her cousins on the Hill side on Christmas Day.  Ellie and Taya are only a week apart!  So cute!!!!  

My whole family at the Crapo Party!  We're all here!  It was so much fun to have Sara and Brandon here from Ohio!

And the last few are Ellie with some of her new toys from Christmas!  

This last one is my favorite!  I love the look on her face!!!

What a blessing Ellie has been!  She is getting so big and we can't wait for 2009.  We'll finalize Ellie's adoption and have her sealed to us... CAN'T WAIT!